Welcome to Live Your Possible, the show that will get you to spark and discover possibilities where you work, live, and play! Join in as host Darrin Tulley introduces us to the format and purpose of the show. As you tune in, he invites you not to change into someone else and to reconnect with your happy, authentic self. He shares the type of guests joining us on future shows and the possibilities we will spark together. Darrin shares personal stories as examples of the kind of human experiences the guests will vulnerably share as motivation to overcome challenges and break wide open to turning lifelong desires into vibrant realities. Sit back and peel back the cover to the emotions and experiences inside you to not only ignite yet to LIVE YOUR POSSIBLE!
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Live Your Possible: Setting The Stage With Darrin Tulley
Discover Possibilities Where You Work, Live And Play!
I’m so excited about bringing this show to the world so we could spark and discover endless possibilities where we work, live and play. There’s a light inside of all of us waiting to unleash. This light holds our childlike nature to create, discover and imagine. Also, how we love and embrace happiness as we invite the world in. I’m not looking for you to change into somebody else. I’m looking for you to ignite your happy and authentic self. I plan to launch this show as a safe place so you could peel back the cover and look inside to see what might be holding you back from pursuing an authentic, inclusive and joyful life.
With a targeted audience, I’m looking for any human or leader that’s looking to make a positive impact with greater meaning and purpose where we can move limited mindsets to one where anything good is possible, igniting more happiness wherever you are and go. Happiness is within all of us. It’s within reach. It’s never far away. I also would love us to unlock possibilities for all people. It’s not a zero-something game. We’re all worthy and capable. It could be fun too if we embrace being uniquely you with authenticity and vulnerability. I love you being you. I need you to love you too.
Happiness is within all of us and it's within reach. It's never far away. Share on XLet’s also serve others with genuine care and empathy, allowing people to amaze us, being their authentic and full selves. We could also transform beliefs and behaviors to help others thrive, believing in the untapped potential in each other again and trusting without doubt, with good intentions to help each other thrive and succeed. I would also love if we could explore inclusion as a gift to expand personal and societal growth. Giving humanity a chance by putting us on an equal playing field where endless possibilities exist. We could also tap into our childlike wonder and awe where we connect with greater meaning, with open-minded curiosity and walk through the door of transcendent joy together.
You’re probably wondering who are the guests on this show. The guests that appear on the show want to pay it forward. They want to help us identify and experiment with what our possibilities are. They want to give us ideas. Our guests are going to arrange from ordinary people to famous stars and artists, sports figures, military officers and business and community leaders, people that are willing to share their experiences, get vulnerable with us and show us what is possible.
They’re relatable humans with relatable struggles. They’re going to give us ideas and show us how they use these as motivation to break through, overcome challenges, ignite lifelong desires and turn them into vibrant realities. They’re going to share and openly discuss what they learned. They’re going to talk about human experiences like vulnerable stories, childhood memories, potentially light-up moments or the joy that’s inside them that gets them into action mode. How did they use that to break wide open? We’re going to learn together. We’re going to have our guests expand without limits. We’re going to hear how they use this to find their act of passion and purpose in life and show us the path to what is possible.
As your host, I feel like it’s only my responsibility to share my responses to some of these tough questions I’ll be asking about human experiences as I feel like I don’t have all the answers, nor do you. Our guests are going to share what helped them break through and how they overcame the challenges in life. I thought it would be nice for me to walk the talk and set the foundation for the type of stories and examples that might be shared here.
Not to say that everything I did was perfect or correct. It worked for me to break wide it open and see that I am possible too. I want you to reflect on these stories with me and think about the good and the bad ones that you could work with to help you see the good in that and how it’s rigged in your favor to see how you could leverage that to grow and ignite your happy and authentic self.
For example, with vulnerable stories and moments, it’s one of those periods where I recognized I wasn’t being my true authentic self. I had an awakening. I was at a diversity and inclusion event where I was 1 of 25 people. I was 1 of 5 White males at this event. It was a four-day immersion event where we spent a lot of time together, got to know each other and started to learn what excites us, what motivates us and what makes us happy. We also found the things that were barriers that got in our way. We started to learn about different injustices and the things that held us back from being our full selves to walk into our day as we are.
Our society is different and it requires people to act a certain way and it’s hard. I didn’t recognize that until I was at this event. At the end of the second day, I started to feel terrified because I was swimming around in this bubble. I had this purpose to bring out the best in people when I realized I was doing that for people that were like me. I was swimming around in this bubble of sameness. The next morning I talked to the group and mentioned how I didn’t realize that I had these unconscious shortcomings and that I wasn’t bringing out the best in everybody. I started to cry. I didn’t think you could even cry at work. I didn’t embrace that until that moment.
When I did, I came alive. I shared with people who I am or my authentic self and how much I cared for everybody in the room. I noticed as I looked into people’s eyes, I could see anger, yet I could also see hope and love because people could feel my intentions were good and that I could believe in a different way that I was going to change the way I was and I’m doing that every single day.
I use a pink pen as my reminder because of its difference. It reminds me that I need to embrace and accept differences, including my own so we could discover and explore what is possible. We could discover and innovate things I never thought were capable or imaginable. The more vulnerable I am about this story more people want to pick me up. At that event, people started to cry with me. What I noticed is that people allowed me to share, be vulnerable, learn and get to something bigger. What I realized is it wasn’t my bubble bursting. It was expanding to put my arm around the world, embracing everybody in it and doing my part.
I became aware of the opportunities. I’m not going to blame myself for being the problem, yet decided, I’m going to be part of the solution. By being part of the solution, I needed to go back, self-reflect and remind myself where I came from. I learned some of these unconscious biases and things based on what was taught and told to be in society. It’s my job to figure out what to embrace and what to let go of. I needed to go back to my roots.
I had a wonderful childhood. I was made fun of because I was a little bit behind. I had to break through that over time. I had to learn and take action to show people I’m a different person. I see things differently. If we did things positively back then, we would have toothpick races. We would try to create and invent new games all around. We invented Sylvan Gazette, our local paper or street paper.
We did that because what we noticed is that our neighbors were walking around like robots and maybe like zombies, especially on the weekends because I had a paper route. I’d go and bring these out early mornings and Saturday. As an adult, I understand why people were in that state. What I wanted to know then is what brings people joy and gets them excited. We created this paper called Sylvan Gazette.
My friends Bugger, JK and I would go out and interview our neighbors. They would share these stories. It would amaze us because they would share what made them excited about their family trips, recipes, gardening, the accomplishments their kids are doing and all the wonderful things that got them through the day. We then shared them in the paper and sell these papers to our neighbors.
Our neighbors loved it. People were waving people down because they wanted to learn more. They had a platform to work with to get to know different people. Our street was thriving. It was quite amazing. As I go back and reflect, we were pretty young and innocent reporters. We did not have an agenda. We let people tell us their stories.
It reminds me to go back and realize that it was the kid in me that was my most creative self. I didn’t have any biases at the time. I welcomed the world in as it is and lived it with wonder and awe. That was my best self where I could help people come out as their full and authentic selves. They amazed us. As I fast forward, it’s pretty cool because this platform is set up in the same way. So far we’ve talked about two of these human experiences. We’ve talked about the vulnerable moments where I had my awakening and then I went back in time and talked a little bit about these childhood memories and the importance of having the child inside of all of us come alive.
Fast forward to a couple of years ago, I was sitting there with my daughter. I was on my smartphone doing work. She was doing homework. She finished her homework and asked for a special treat. We went back and forth until we agreed on something sweet and a little bit healthier. It was a watermelon Italian ice. We took off the lid and put it on the quarter of the table. She went back and finished this beautiful delicious ice. I was back at work, not doing either one while hanging out with her or doing my work too well.
She finished it. I put my phone down and looked over at her. I said, “You’re happy.” Out of the corner of my eye, I see this lid upside down and this one-eyed smile. My eyes get big and I take this one-eyed smile and I share it with my daughter. Her eyes light up and her mouth is wide open. I’m like, “The kid inside of her came alive.” The kid inside of me came alive seeing her smile beyond belief. It was so unimaginable. This one little smile can make that impact.
What happened is we allowed ourselves to see something fun. We allowed our guard to go down and ourselves to be silly. I was accepting differences and this is a one-eyed smile. It’s different. It has reminded me to accept happiness and inclusion as a platform for change. When I recognized that this smile was upside down, I realized it wasn’t a smile that was upside down. It was me. I needed to change the way I looked at things.
Once I did that, I started to see where joy comes from. Making my daughter happy is pretty cool but what I realized is my joy comes from within me, connecting back out in the world, seeing they are possible, having hope, belonging, embracing joy and not being afraid of it. That’s what started my path to the last step, thinking about this innate joy that’s within all of us. That’s never far away. It’s always within reach. I started to write stories down day after day because all the things started popping and connecting in my mind.
It was so intentional, purposeful and beautiful. That’s where I started this company called Ignite Happy and I finished this book called Live Your Possible. This whole point of bringing joy to the world and helping people light up is possible. This is a jumping-off point for this show to invite people in and share with us how these human experiences impacted them and motivated them to make an impact in the world. Let this be a jumping-off point for our guests to expand our minds and our opportunities beyond limits.
In closing, I want you to keep your eyes wide open and be open-minded with curiosity. I’m going to share with you some of the key learnings and ideas that we learn from our guests that we could try out. I need you to be ready to self-reflect and tap into your good or bad experiences to inspire you to light up and do the unimaginable. I dare you and encourage you to turn that light back on high to beam as your most authentic, inclusive and joyful self.
It's never too late to ignite your happy, authentic self and LIVE YOUR POSSIBLE! Share on XWhen you’re a lighthouse, you start to make it safer for others to do the same. As you make others shine, you’re going to beam too. We’re all going to become a bit brighter. Thank you for following the show and believing anything is possible. Remember, it’s never too late to ignite your happy and authentic self and live your possible.
